A sensual experience, bumping nasties, making love, getting freaky -- whatever you like to call it, sex with the right partner in a loving relationship is great. Here are three ways to keep it new and exciting:
- Communicate More - Don't be afraid to ask for what you want or share your enjoyment in return. Couples who actively communicate during a sensual romp report higher levels of satisfaction. There’s no right or wrong way to do it either. Add a little dirty talk, be specific about where, how much pressure, faster, slower, or whatever you need to increase your pleasure. Women sometimes shy away from bedroom talk, but don’t fall into this trap. In general, men want to please their partners and report that it turns them on to hear their partners communicate in the sheets.
- Try a New Outfit – Sexuality is a very visual experience, and adding a new outfit or a different look can build excitement for both partners. You don’t have to rock a full dominatrix suit or wear crotchless panties (however, if you feel bold enough – go for it and enjoy your partner’s reaction). Even adding something small that you’ve never worn before can be enough to spike attention. For example, if you’re a thong gal, try a lacy pair of boy shorts and a cute tank. If you like flowy nighties, try a bustier or a sexy bra. Sometimes the smallest change can make the biggest difference. Plus, it’s about boosting your confidence – so wear whatever makes you feel sexy.
- Turn on Music – Create your own playlist of songs that put you in the mood. It can be soulful baby-making music, hiphop, country, or oldies. There’s no right or wrong playlist for sex because it is all about you and your partner. Try mixing up beats and tempos to see if you enjoy thrusting to a rhythm or make the whole playlist your special relationship songs. Music elicits an emotional and physical response in humans and can enhance intimate situations.
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